Tuesday, January 12, 2010

The Line of Beauty

Brig Upon the Water, 1856 by Gustave Le Grey

I've returned to the Ames Library after many months, maybe even a half-year. Exploring the shelves again gives me that pleasure which is so close to my heart, a pure delight, wandering among bookshelves, aimlessly picking up books and turning pages . . .

I come across an anthology of Russian short stories from the 2oth century. I come across a book of translated poems by Giuseppe Ungaretti, whom I've never heard of before. I pick up Alan Hollinghurst's novel, The Line of Beauty, and I am curious to read it.

Perhaps I will check these books out.

While my mind plots out the future with relentless determination, my body craves moments like these, moments of abandon, moments of self-forgetfulness . . .

I feel like a naughty or undisciplined child when I'm not following my mental agenda--I "look the other way" and allow myself to just explore and be surprised by ephemera.

Whatever catches my fancy in this moment is my agenda; but I am self-divided. On the one hand, I long to embrace the moment. My love of reading is a testament to this desire and this longing.

But my personality continually pulls me out of these moments. There is always something on my mind, an endless monologue going on, and I rarely allow myself to become engrossed, absorbed, in experience.

Reading The Sheltering Sky by Paul Bowles, for example, I often thought about what I would read next . . .

Our minds seem fixated on what's next . . .

I also have a cold right now, and I'm thinking about how much better things will be after my cold is gone. This state of mind, in which I'm always anticipating the future, contributes to my restlessness, to my ongoing ambitions in work, and more and more the task of living becomes a passage from one set of circumstances to another.

I'm preoccupied with moving from point A to point B. Once I get to point B, I become preoccupied with point C, whatever that may be.

Consumer culture seems to feed on this mania. The acquisition of any material object leads to the desire for another object. But in life, the object becomes our set of circumstances, and we strive to alter them, to improve our lives until we are satisfied.

I am always in transit to where I would like to be, and never just where I am.

I shouldn't say "never". When I write these essays, I am fully present. I am at home with my emotions and thoughts. My mind and body are strangely united. Writing is closer to an act of prayer than anything I've ever done before. I commune with my deepest thoughts and feelings, and try to give them speech. I try to let my body articulate its trials.

There is something deeply troubling me right now--it seems I can't be happy. I don't think one can be happy "in transit".

I refer to my age a lot. When I say "I'm thirty years old," it gives me a certain vantage point to speak from. Perhaps you've been thirty before, or maybe you have ten years to go, whatever the case, thirty is a defining age for me. It makes me think harder than when I was twenty-nine. I'm beginning to ask myself questions like, "How do I really want to live my life?"

I feel like a wanderer. Every project I take on leads me into a sort of Siberian landscape--a blinding whiteness in which I can't see ahead or behind me--I go deeper into this white territory, unsure if I'm committing too much to a certain route, if perhaps I should abandon this route and find another, I don't know, but I keep walking into the white emptiness, the giant plane--

You would think that my projects would take me home, but they don't. They lead me out. They multiply me because I am caught in a desire to do more always.

So projects, while fulfilling on some level, ultimately just feed me more work to occupy my hours, and then there is this thing, beauty, which I am obsessed with.

Beauty is but a general term for my fantasies--I chase after something like a perfect world. It is beautiful to me, aesthetically, idealistically, but it also promises a sort of completion, like a spiritual completion, if only I could attain it.

My pursuit of the line of beauty has left me in a conflicted state. Beauty leads me into another Siberia, a Siberia of fantasy, and I am no closer to home, I am farther.

And then there is the sense that I'm engaging in a grand self-deception. I will never achieve my fantasy, the beauty I imagine is unattainable, so why do I contemplate this ideal world during so many of my waking hours?

Having tried the different ways to self-completion, or self-fulfillment, I fail. Imagined beauty fails me and so does my incessant activity. If it were possible that a relationship with a woman could save me, then I would pursue it--God knows I have tried--I am trying--I am in a relationship right now--her heart is more delicate and trusting and charitable than any woman I've ever been with---but I am still--unsatisfied--it is not her--I do not blame her.

In truth, there is no one to blame in life. I tried blaming my father. He seemed like the perfect culprit for my problems. But alas, there is no one except ourselves. . .

We have ourselves. But to blame yourself for being unhappy is wrong too. To say that I am unhappy is also wrong--

Unhappiness is a broad generalization for an often-changing state of mind. I'm not confused either, as some readers have suggested--

I'm innocent. It's a state of conflict, of contradiction, it's being human. Being unable to be here (with God or Nothingness), always seeking after that enigma on the edge of your mind. For me, it is beauty, an ideal . . .

The ideal world is especially seductive. I have a powerful imagination, and I can concoct convincing pictures in my mind, fantasies, alternative realities. The trouble is bringing the present moment up to speed with the picture in my head, an impossible feat, because fantasy and reality never cross streams.

And so I dwell in the uncomfortable middle--pulled forward by visions--and thrown backward by reality. Remember: I choose to have it this way. Which is the greatest conundrum of all.


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6 comments:

Catherine said...

This is exactly why I'm a realist! However, I'm realizing more and more how being a realist conflicts with the inherent nature of making art. Problematic.

Thirty is very far away for me, but I still wonder every day what I want my life to look life. It's a frightening and exciting prospect; and apparently the question doesn't seem to leave with age.

Zen said...

This is In response to...

""Our minds seem fixated on what's next . . .

I also have a cold right now, and I'm thinking about how much better things will be after my cold is gone. This state of mind, in which I'm always anticipating the future, contributes to my restlessness, to my ongoing ambitions in work, and more and more the task of living becomes a passage from one set of circumstances to another.

I'm preoccupied with moving from point A to point B. Once I get to point B, I become preoccupied with point C, whatever that may be. ""

I wrote my thought down on a similar context about 5 hrs ago:
http://www.zugiart.com/2010/01/way-of-life/

It just seems to coincides, but from what I learn, there is no such thing as coincidence.

"Don't regret the past,
Don't over-speculate the future,
Don't cling to the present.
But live the moment"

peace be with you and take care!
- Zen

TrinaMb said...

Your reflections have been on my mind since you posted them, at the time of first reading I didnt want to just post my 'gut reaction'. Having pondered my reactions though, I keep coming back to the initial one... embrace the moment - allow yourself the pleasure to 'misbehave', allow yourself to feel the misery of the cold, embrace those times when your mind races towards what could, should be. Being in the moment is the most beloved gift one can give themselves. In no way is that selfish, it is accepting. Just my humble observation. I enjoy the writings of Eckhart Tolle in "A New Earth" which helps me to accept what is.

noor said...

Libraries are not my type of thing. I mean, I enjoy going to the library and seeing the endless rows of books. But I'm the type of person who rereads the book several times. It is interesting to read it several times because each time, you interpret it a different way. Sometimes you read something that you haven't read before, because you skimmed over it. But there is a limit to continuously buying books. So, in the end, it's just rechecking books out over and over again.

It's easier to blame other people for whatever is that has gone wrong. It's human nature not wanting to blame yourself, even if that is the person to blame. "But to blame yourself for being unhappy is wrong too." That's a problem too, because if you blame yourself for being unhappy, then you somewhat know the cause of your unhappiness but that does not necessarily mean that you know how to change it. It's just something that you just have to get over, I guess. Just continuously write it out, because that's the only thing that really helps.

I guess we're always "fixated on what's next." Even if one is in the act of doing something, you know that there is always something after that. That whatever you're doing, you know that it is only being done for a certain amount of time, and then you're moving on to something new. Everything's temporary.

I've been sick since New Years Eve. I don't even know what I have anymore, and I just want to get better and stop feeling so run down. But feel better soon. :)

Lethe said...

Noor--

Thank you for your thoughtful comments!

Catherine--

I wish, wish, I was a realist

Zen--

You're incredible. I love the Buddhist Wisdom to bring into my essays-- to balance my monkey mind.

Trina--

Always supportive. Thanks for reading my writing for over a year. I'm grateful to have readers like yourself.

Lethe

adee said...

it seems what u have written here is for me. and me only. at 30, i often wonder what's 'next', i often go nostalgic at how the 20s could have been different, but i'm almost never ever in the present.
i take refuge in work, i write, i dream, i click, i love, be loved, make love but no, nothing helps.
its like a benign quicksand that i've fallen into and only i know that i'm sinking. rest around me say everything is fine. only i know, nothing is...